There is something really refreshing about starting a new year. Its like there is a clean slate and things that might have been left behind in 2014 can be rejuvenated when the clock strikes twelve on the 31st. There is a new energy where anything seems possible, so new years resolutions are made. It might be something like saving money, give up swearing, lose weight, to have more balance etc. Each set with good intentions but destined to fail if we don’t understand what gets in our way.
We have some drivers that can stop us -we don’t see them but they are certainly running the show and sabotaging what we want to achieve. A lifetime of patterning that has just become a part of us that we don’t even realise.
It is like those cartoons where there is an devil and an angel sitting on your shoulders. When you try implement new things or move forward in life there are two little characters having a battle about what should happen.
There is the devil yelling at the top of his or her lungs aggressively saying…
‘No,no go on, one chocolate won’t hurt’
‘You may as well have fun if you are going to fail anyway’
‘its only money, buy buy buy’
‘Go on just jump in don’t care about anyone else’
Cover up those emotions, have a drink or smoke it wont matter’
Don’t be fooled though, I think that the angel appears to be all sweet and innocent but he/she also is playing a game. They sit there dictating how things should be done, like a moral compass that tells you what you need to do and then elicits the guilt factor. Does this sound familiar…
‘Oh but it needs to be this way…’
‘You are not doing it the right way’
‘Be sensible now’
‘What will others think’
‘Who do you think you are – you cant do that’
‘Other people will think you are stupid, they are just gonna laugh at you’
What do we do with this?
Well first of all I want to say that it is BS to think that we have to listen to one or the other. What we need to do is find a balance between the two or keep them in the background to use them to our advantage when we need it.
We also need to understand why they are there in the first place, why they need to speak (or yell!) as well as where they came from. Its pretty hard to just ignore them as they will just keep nagging until you are worn down. What we all need to do is understand why they need to have a strong voice, really listen and unpack the reasons so that we can do something about it. For instance your lack of confidence, feeling of unworthiness, perfectionism or what ever it is, is most likely based upon some sort of experience in the past that is still lingering in the present. It’s like the emotional resonance is there and these little voices or thoughts inside your head are forcing an emotional response or behaviour.
These things dictate to us in the moment but that doesn’t always have to be the case. My wish for you in 2015 is that you can have some time to get to know who you are and what drives your responses. When you need it, use the devil speak to drive you and take risks but use the angles voice as the safety officer and OHS rep!
Wouldn’t it be great if we could get out of our own way and live the life the way we wish for.
What’s your wish for 2015?
Have a good one!
PS if you want to create a vision for 2015 don’t forget the Ultimate Vision Board, link pinned to the top of this page.